DID YOU MISS ME? TANIA IS BACK.
- Tania Tonsorial
- 1 day ago
- 7 min read
Updated: 1 day ago
A new home, a new ride, new photos, upcoming tours… and one hell of a story.
I know. It’s been a while.
A long while.
Some of you have checked in, some of you already know pieces of what has been happening, and some of you are probably wondering where the hell I disappeared to.
There has been a LOT of life happening behind the scenes-the good, the bad, and the downright ugly.
And because I would much rather end this on the good stuff, let’s get the hard part out of the way first.
THE BAD
Some of you know that earlier this year, I fell in love.
It was with someone I had known for a few years. Yes, we originally met online, and yes, they were also a SW. It was actually my first time romantically dating someone in my own industry, and I was incredibly excited about what I thought we were building together.
They eventually moved across the country to live with me so we could start our lives together.
Five days later, on July 20, everything changed.
I’m not going to describe what happened in detail. It was violent, terrifying, and serious enough that I could have lost my life. The police became involved, there is now a court case, and I’m handling everything that comes with that as best I can.
It has been one of the saddest and scariest experiences of my life, and I don’t want to give it more space here than it deserves. But I also didn’t want to simply reappear without acknowledging where I’ve been and why I disappeared for a while.
I trusted someone I loved, and unfortunately that trust was terribly misplaced. I learned some incredibly painful lessons from the experience. As awful as it was, I’m grateful I learned who this person was five days into living together rather than five years into building a life together.
For my safety, I also made the decision to relocate.
Which brings us to…
THE UGLY
Because apparently one major life crisis at a time wasn’t enough.
Exactly ONE WEEK later, on July 27, my car was totaled.
Yes. Seriously.
Some of you may remember that I was already hit by another driver in December. Neither accident was my fault, so somehow I’ve managed to be hit twice in a very short period of time-and this time I lost the car completely.
Dealing with the aftermath has been its own nightmare, particularly dealing with an attorney I sincerely wish I had never hired. I’ll spare you that rant for another day.
But there is a silver lining:
I have a new car. I actually really like her. And Tania is officially mobile again.
Now can we PLEASE get to the fun stuff?
THE GOOD --- AND THERE’S A LOT OF IT
My new location is absolutely BEAUTIFUL.
I’m hosting again in Downtown Los Angeles in a gorgeous luxury building, and somehow I managed to upgrade from my original DTLA setup.
I have considerably more space, tons of privacy and-one of my favorite parts-a complete salon setup right inside my home.
The Tonsorial Experience officially has a new home.
And yes… I have plans for it.
I’m slowly adding some kinky furniture, toys and other fun additions to make the space even more me. If you’ve ever wanted to spoil me with a gift, helping me add something delicious to our new playground certainly won’t hurt my feelings.
And for those who want something a little more elaborate, I also have access-with enough advance notice-to an incredible, fully equipped dungeon space nearby in Los Angeles.
Some of you may already know exactly which one I’m talking about: the Pink Dungeon.
It is absolutely to die for.
SPEAKING OF THE PINK DUNGEON…
Surprise.
I FINALLY HAVE NEW PHOTOS.
These are from my latest shoot, and I’ve been dying to share them with you.
We played with two very different sides of Tania: latex, toys and deliciously commanding dungeon energy… followed by something softer, sparkly, glamorous and just a little over-the-top.
This photo shoot was planned a bit last minute, but more are in the works...
And I want to know what you think. You can also sponsor my shoots or help cover costs of location and looks....
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Which look is your favorite? Which photo caught your attention first? And most importantly…
Which version of Tania would you like to see more of?
Hit reply and tell me. I genuinely love hearing your feedback, especially when I’m planning future shoots and deciding what trouble to get into next.
DOUBLE THE TROUBLE
I’m also now available for select sessions alongside the lovely Lila Stern.
Our time together is strictly Domme-focused, so if the fantasy of finding yourself under the attention of TWO Dommes at once has crossed your mind… perhaps it’s time to stop fantasizing and start inquiring.
Double Domme at its finest. She is an absolute dream.
And for those looking for something a little different, I still have some absolutely beautiful friends here in Los Angeles whom I adore working with.
One of my favorites is the gorgeous Sandra.
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Our time together can range from luxurious four-handed massage and pampering all the way to the kinkiest things our imaginations can come up with. She’s an absolute dream, our chemistry together is fantastic, and I have a feeling you’ll love her as much as I do.
Curious?
Inquire within.
WHAT’S NEXT FOR TANIA?
My plans for school have been temporarily put on hold while life settles back down, but they have absolutely NOT disappeared.
For those who may not know, my goal is to go back to school for psychology, with the eventual goal of becoming a therapist and working with people in the SW community. After everything I’ve experienced-and the work I’m already doing within my community-that goal feels more important to me than ever.
Completely separate from school, I’m also finally getting back to something I started years ago: my yoga instructor training.
I started working toward becoming a certified yoga instructor around COVID, but life happened and I kept putting it on the back burner. I’ve decided it’s time to pull those books back out, get serious about my training again, and finally finish what I started.
Yoga has always been something I’ve wanted to incorporate into my life in a bigger way, and once I’m certified, I’d love to explore offering classes of my own.
And because this is me we’re talking about… I already have some ideas for making those classes a little less conventional.
Naked yoga, anyone?
TANIA IS HITTING THE ROAD AGAIN
Tours are coming back!
Right now, the final piece of the puzzle is finding the perfect pet sitter for my little zoo in my new home. Once that’s locked down, I’m ready to start traveling again.
First on my list?
SEATTLE + PORTLAND
If you’re in the Pacific Northwest and have been waiting for me to come your way, NOW is the time to reach out.
I’ll be putting dates together based on interest, so early inquiries absolutely help me decide how long I stay and where I stop.
And if Seattle or Portland isn’t your city, tell me where you want me next. You never know where I might show up.
I’M READY TO RECONNECT
After everything that’s happened, I’ve realized something.
More than anything right now, I genuinely want to reconnect with people.
I’ve slowly started seeing some familiar faces again, and I cannot tell you how good that has felt.
At the end of this month, I’ll be spending an extended period of time with one of my favorite lovers, and I’m very excited to see this lucky fella again.
These relationships are one of the things I love most about what I do.
There’s something incredibly special about seeing someone again and again over the years-learning each other’s quirks, building trust, sharing experiences and watching that connection become something uniquely ours.
So if we’ve met before and it’s been a while, please don’t assume I’ve forgotten about you.
Quite the opposite.
Familiar faces sound especially wonderful these days.
As for my personal dating life?
That application process is CLOSED for the foreseeable future.
I’m pouring that energy into myself, my work, my community and the people who have consistently shown me genuine kindness.
SOMETHING BIGGER CAME OUT OF ALL OF THIS
There is one unexpected thing that came from what happened to me.
Trying to find help after experiencing domestic violence opened my eyes to how few resources exist specifically for SWs experiencing abuse.
I reached out for help and discovered firsthand how complicated-and sometimes incredibly discouraging-it can be to navigate systems that weren’t built with people in our industry in mind.
There were organizations I contacted that would not help me. I can’t definitively tell you why, but the experience certainly left me with questions.
And more importantly, it made me realize:
I want to do something about it.
It’s still only the beginning of an idea, but at some point I would love to help create a community or resource specifically for SWs who have experienced domestic violence.
Nobody asking for help should have to wonder whether their profession will determine whether they’re believed, respected or deserving of support.
For now, I’m continuing my work with SWOP LA, and I absolutely LOVE working with this organization.
It has genuinely become some of the most rewarding work I’ve ever done.
If you’re ever looking for somewhere meaningful to donate or simply want to know more about what they do, ask me. I will happily talk your ear off about them.
SO… WHERE DOES THAT LEAVE US?
It leaves me HERE.
Single.
Safe.
In a beautiful new home.
Driving a new car.
Creating again.
Planning again.
Traveling again soon.
And very, very ready to have some fun again.
I’m available most days of the week with enough notice, and please remember that Downtown Los Angeles does not have to be a barrier to seeing me.
LA is enormous. I know getting across town can sometimes feel like a road trip of its own.
I’m happy to come to you, and with enough notice I can also arrange a beautiful incall at a hotel closer to your neighborhood.
So whether we’ve never met before or it’s simply been far too long…
Don’t be a stranger.
If you’re one of my familiar faces, I would genuinely love to hear from you.
And if you’ve been quietly watching from afar, reading these newsletters and telling yourself “one day…”
Maybe one day is finally here.
It’s been one hell of a summer.
But I’m still here.
I’m back. I’m rebuilding. I’m creating. And I’m ready to play.
I cannot wait to see you.
xx, Tania
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